Oh look, I have a different opinion from most people in the world, therefor I’m EVIL!!!!!
Sounds like your sex-negative. Which isn’t evil so much as just kind of douchey. It isn’t up to you to judge someone’s sex life. And if you could leave the…
don’t fucking tell people they have to leave the community because you don’t like the way they feel about something. IN fact, don’t tell any minority they have to leave their community because they have a problematic opinion that may ~look bad on the community~. Yeah, we should encourage people to examine their opinions and maybe help them see them objectively or the way we see them. But you do not have a fucking right to cut off their support system because you don’t like their opinion.
and you know what? they can be fucking sex-negative if they want to. Not everyone has to think sex is some great thing (I’m sex-neutral, myself). So long as they don’t push their opinions on sex on other people idgaf.
So many things wrong with your knee-jerk response.
- I didn’t tell her to get out of the community, I requested rather calmly that she leave the community out of it when she spoke about being sex-negative.
- I didn’t tell her not to be sex-negative.
- I’m a sex-repulsed asexual.
My only concern is that things like that perpetuate stereotypes that encourage anti-ace brigades. Associating different opinions as if they’re associated with one another causes people to make incorrect assumptions that the two ideas are connected.
Again, didn’t say leave the community. I’d never say that. Just clarify that the opinion doesn’t have to do with the community in general.
They’re separate ideas after all.
No skin off my nose if you want to keep shouting and swearing at me though.
uh yeah you do realize that if you succeed in getting sex-negative people to never fucking talk about sex-negativity except when theyr’e around other sex-negative people, they will probably never come around to a sex-neutral or sex-positive position?
and boohfuckinghoo. who gives a fuck what the anti-ace brigades think?Ha, okay cupcake, calm down. I really don’t think you’re understanding what I’m trying to say. People are free to be sex-negative if they so wish and if they’re really set in their ways, they’re unlikely to change. Which is alright. Freedom of choice and opinion.
But those opinions set with things like asexuality, set in the same sentence as if connected, is a bad mix. With the anti-ace brigade running around shooting us down and calling us liars, prudes, and creeps, it does matter. Which isn’t giving them license to keep running their mouths off as if they themselves, as human beings, are important. It comes down to not happily lining up with cans of gasoline to throw it on their intolerant fires.
And I’m also not telling people with a sex-negative veiwpoint to stop talking about it except with people of their own mindset, either. You certainly do like putting words in my mouth, don’t you? All I’m saying is that the asexual community needs to respect one another’s differences of opinion and make it clear that one person’s opinion doesn’t reflect that of the rest of the community. and shouldn’t be mistaken for the consensus.
I mean, just because I’m an atheist, for example, doesn’t mean the entire ace community is as well. Same goes with whether an asexy is sex-positive or -negative. It should be made clear that that particular opinion doesn’t reflect that of the overall community. We’re all different.
/calms down
Okay, I am sorry for the knee-jerk response that was essentially the internet version of ringing your doorbell and screaming mindlessly in your face when you open the door.
I just have very, very bad feels about that sort of thing in part because the anti-acers are always nagging at us to pretty much call-out and shut-out problematic aces and they’re aren’t many places for people to go to for asexual issues.
though honestly? I don’t see many people claiming that the ace community treats slutshamers like evil devilworshipers. For that reason alone, OP should be encouraged. It’s good PR.In my experience, the anti-ace brigade is… well, a bunch of ignorant cocks. Full-stop. But at the very least I do actually agree with you, I don’t tend to like extremes or the weird infighting in the ace community over whether sex is okay or not. It’s an individual thing and not something you can force on someone else. So really I’m hoping one day people get their shit together, calm down, and realise that their opinion is just theirs and not necessarily fit for the person next to them.
Otherwise the OP’s tumblr is just a troll, I just scanned through and literally every single post is geared towards antagonising other tumblr users, in their description they say it isn’t their main blog. Just used to piss people off.
But yeah… opinions are individual things so it goes both ways. A sex-positive person can’t go shout down a sex-negative one and vice-versa. Our exceptionally tiny community doesn’t always make it safe for one another to be in the same company does it? I still do maintain that a asexy’s opinion on sex should be made clear as standing unassociated intimately with what it is to be asexual. But at the base of it we seem to agree.
I agree that we shouldn’t be calling one another out and shaming one another for personal opinions. Because it isn’t conducive to a positive asexual atmosphere and it encourages outsider misunderstanding and bigotry.
So, we okay? Because I only like arguing with other tumblr users is they’re seriously mislead, unlike-able cockstains. Not rational people with serious feels and brains.
Yeah, we cool ♥ I agree with you on pretty much everything, so how could I have a beef? I just wigged and was reading words that weren’t there. /acebrofist
I don’t mind the trolls so much because they do tend to stir up some interesting discussion every once in a while.
but in 2006 we’re still assuming the attractive chick with the pointy stick is, not a warrior, not eyecandy or a concubine or something, but a goddamned secretary?
